Why Women Cheat
Women will cheat because they’re not being given what they think they’re owed (and feel entitled to).
The motivation to cheat is really about her and her wants.
She wants to feel sexy and attractive; and she wants a sexy and attractive man to make her feel that way.
She also wants her physical and emotional needs met; and to not still feel bored after.
This post isn’t intended to scare men into believing all women are cheaters. It is intended to make men aware of how their actions may or may not be affecting the women they’re romantically involved with. Why women cheat will depend on their feelings, commitment, and investment in their partner; as well as the risk involved in getting caught cheating.
Although I’m not proud of myself for being the type of person women find themselves cheating on their partners with, I’ll offer my perspective on the top reasons why women cheat.
Why Women Cheat
She Is Bored
She doesn’t feel her relationship is exciting anymore. Everyday life is mundane, repetitive, and this becomes something she resents (albeit comfortably). When she’s approached by a smooth-talking jerk, she’ll choose jerk over boredom. Having an affair is her response to feeling trapped in a boring relationship.
She Is Scorned
She’s been cheated on and feels humiliated. “Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned” because she is fearless about the consequences of her payback revenge affair.
She Is Sexually Frustrated
Women love sex. When there isn’t enough sex in the relationship or the sex is boring/bland, a woman will fantasize about sewing her wild oats again. The reason romantic novels and books like 50 Shades are Grey are so popular is because women pine for acting on their sexual desires and unleashing their inner-slut (without judgement, of course). This fantasy turnsover into reality if an indiscreet sexual affair is arranged that could alleviate her sexual frustrations.
She Has Low Self-Esteem
She isn’t secure enough about herself and how her partner feels about her. She constantly needs attention and being told she’s sexy, beautiful, and loved to boost her self-esteem and reinforce the idea that she is desired.
She Is Lonely
She doesn’t see enough of her partner, so she feels neglected, ignored, or unappreciated. Her desire for intimacy- to be touch, kissed, manhandled is a desperate plea for attention and to fill the lonely void of an emotional connection.
She Wants More
She isn’t happy, and her unhappiness is a cue that something is missing in her life. The unfulfillment she feels causes her mind and heart to wander, looking for incentives to end her current relationship and pursue a new relationship with someone she perceives to be more powerful, more intriguing, or more attractive to her; someone she rightfully designates to be her “soul-mate” because he makes her “happy”…at least for now.
She Is An Emotions Addict
Her libido is raging and she has an inability control her urges (and close her legs). The revving up of her sex-drive is an addicting emotional thrill she pursues over and over again. Sometimes she’s looking to get caught just so she can experience the potential emotional fallout of her reckless behavior.
She Wants To Re-live Her Youth
She is a sexy older woman that just wants to feel sexy again. She remembers a time in her life when there was a rush of men that romantically courted and pursued her; she misses that time of her life and she just wants to feel that she’s “still got it”.
She Has A History Of Cheating
Once a woman cheats, she’s likely to cheat again. She values a carousel adventure of men over monogamous relationships, jumping from man to man not knowing what she wants; but she knows she doesn’t want monogamy and she doesn’t care.