The Disappointing Tale of A “John”
I heard about a guy that was so frustrated with his sex life (rather lack of one) that he made the decision to hire a prostitute.
I don’t judge what this person did. He needed to fulfill his sexual desires and get his dick wet, so he paid a hooker.
I’m sure he entertained the thought of paid sex several times before, perhaps browsing through craigslist and escort pages. As he failed to get results with women (get laid) those thoughts must have lingered and intensified over time.
He believed he did everything he possibly could to get laid and nothing seemed to work. Maybe he went out, approached some women, got a few numbers, but nothing come of it…
Then, feeling pitiful about himself for not getting results, desperation overwhelmed him. How was he ever going to jump the hurdle of sexual incompetency? Masturbation can only do so much to relieve his pent-up need for sex.
The easy solution- Get a prostitute.
The “John” will have one hour of the prostitute’s time to get his dick wet and then shower in her faked affection afterwards. When the hour is completed, she’ll be gone and the John will be forced backed into the mediocrity that is his sex life.
I’ve heard this same story many times, unfortunately. Guys that resort to paid sex because they simply don’t know any other way. Thing is, this goes beyond paying for sex. Johns will come in different forms. They can be old rich guys, politicians, frat boys, married men, guys on vacation…but the most disappointing is the guy that’s a John because that’s all he knows.
He has zero confidence that he can meet a woman, arouse her, and then have sex with her. Or he might see particular women as “out of his league”. Whether it’s a sense of entitlement, loneliness, desperation, confusion, sexual frustration- paying for sex communicates several things about a person.
It communicates that the John doesn’t have the disciple, commitment, and belief in himself to be considered a sex-worthy guy.
The disciple o not be pay for easy sex-
Working girls (girls in the sex industry really) don’t have the same sexual barriers to sex like “normal” girls would. They’re more sexual, hornier, and love sex. Some of these women in the sex industry are very affectionate, albeit very crazy as well. They want men that won’t judge them for their occupation, will speak to them about current events, history, and take an interest in them as a person; and someone they see as a demon in bed. Remember, these girls need boyfriends too!
The commitment to get this handled, despite the disappointments-
Sexual promiscuity is at an all-time high, and sex on the first date is a common occurrence according to this NY Post article. Not every girl a guy approaches or takes on a date will be down for sex; but it’s more likely than not if he just makes sexual advances.
The belief that he is an attractive man that women want-
An attractive man inspires emotions of lust with the women he pursues. He speaks confidently, walks with a swagger, and knows sex with a girl is win for her just as much as it is for him.
By seeking a hooker the John chooses to believe that the only possible way he could ever have sex is to pay for it. He’ll never be able to successfully seduce women, he’ll never be good enough to have women chase after him, he’ll never be sex-worthy man; he’ll always be a “John” that had to pay a women to have sex with him. And in his mind, this will be reinforced for a lifetime.
Sex isn’t a big deal. When it becomes a big deal, only then does it cost something.