The Cougar Manifesto
I drop my keys on the kitchen table and take a deep breath.
“Damn I’m tired, but I got to hit the gym”
I change into my gym clothes, then grab my iPod in a zombie like trance. I leave my apartment, re-entering the frigid cold weather that I just escaped from to head to the gym.
Inside the gym, I walk passed the cardio machines. I don’t talk to anyone at the gym, as it’s my time of the day to work out and relieve the stress of the work day.
However, my male instincts cause me to check out the cute girl selection on the bicycles, elliptical and treadmills. I immediately spot a petite perky blonde girl, and I smile a little inside.
As I walk to the locker-room to drop off my jacket, something catches my eye. I spot a girl wearing tight black leotards with a matching black tank top. She’s taller than the other girls, and her shape is phenomenal. Her ass is perfect, as my mind starts to imagine how smooth it would be across my palm.
She has long brunette hair, just past her shoulders. Her face is aged, but she is an absolutely sexy woman. She’s slightly sweating (rather glowing), and looking tired from her work out.
“There’s no ring in that finger!”, I think quietly to myself. I’m ecstatic about this discovery, but begin to lose focus on my workout, and gaining more focus on hers.
She has to be in her 40s, yet the looks of the young girls around her pale in comparison. I get nervous thinking about this woman. Imagining her naked has my heart pounding. She could probably teach me things that I would’ve never dreamed of!
My sets on the bench press are horrible. She’s been on my mind, and focusing on anything but her is a waste of time. I see her get off her treadmill, and walk over to the water foundation to get a sip of water.
Little do I know that while I’m thinking about her naked wet body, she’s wanting a young energetic fun man to sweep her off your feet.
Think about it for a moment.
Why else would she be working out for that slim body?
It’s because she wants to impress the good looking young men like myself. She’s not doing this for the old overweight libido-lacking men.
She needs to do this to compete with the young slender girls that are running around in the clubs. However, unlike those girls, this woman carries herself in a way that displays confidence and independence.
The majority of men fantasize and often wonder what it would feel like to be with an older women. It’s a fantasy that rarely comes into fruition, unfortunately.
Why cant men fulfill their fantasy with Mrs. Robinson?
Many of my friends have told me they would love being with a sexy older woman; but they can’t comprehend it in their reality. I’ve talked to a lot of men, and the main problem is that they are intimidated. A lot of guys would rather have a younger girl with less experience, in order to feel superior and fulfilled. But they’re missing out big time, and quite frankly, they’re going about this all wrong.
The cougar has been around for decades, but was often ostracized as too taboo. That all changed when Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher broke the mold and the idea of younger men having a sexual or sometimes committed relationship with older women became more acceptable in society. Today, Courtney Cox stars in the popular sitcom, Cougar Town, where she dates younger men all the time. It’s a hit among many Americans (Hell, even my mom DVRs it and this is a little frightening for me, haha).
I’ve dated many older women that have enriched my life with several fun and amazing experiences. Therefore, through my own experiences and observations, I want to give you the insights I’ve accumulated throughout the years.
The Cougar Manifesto
Cougars Want A Man To Do The Same Things He Would Do For A Younger Woman
That’s right guys, there is no secret formula to ravishing hot cougars. All women, at any race and age, need the same thing. When you approach a cougar or go on a date with them, they are still looking for a dominant, charming, decisive, fun guy…just like any other woman! This is extremely important. Being dominant, leading, and decisive will do a couple of things for you. She’ll realize that you truly are a man despite the age difference, and she will allow you to lead like one. Showing your masculinity is going to score you major points because not only are women universally submissive and indecisive, but a younger man expressing his masculinity despite the age difference is extremely attractive. It shows that no circumstances will stop you from being alpha.
You Are Allowed To Be More Direct And Up Front Than Usual
An advantage we have with older women is that we can be more direct and up front about our sexual intentions. These women are past the stage of feeling judged or worrying if they look “easy”. Furthermore, a lot of cougars are newly divorced with kids of their own and jobs to support them. They do not have the time or the energy to worry how they appear to society. Not in every case, but the majority. They lead extremely busy lives, therefore they are more responsive to men that approach them in a more direct sexual manner; unless those men are really obnoxious about it. Use your common sense, and don’t become a crazy horny sleezeball. Getting an older woman home might not be as easy as a younger girl, but at least there’s more leniency when it comes to directness.
Try To Go For Divorcees, Rather Than ‘Never Been Married’ Cougars
Through my experience, I’ve always had amazing sexual experiences with women who are newly divorced, rather than women that have never been married. I always asked myself why until I had an interesting experience with one woman. This woman named Lisa and I had met for a date where we ended up back at her place for some hot passion times. Post-coil, she looked at me sincerely and said, “Thank you…I really really needed that”. I realized that she didn’t say that because I got her to orgasm, but because she had felt beautiful and sexy again. And I made her feel that way. It was a truly beautiful moment for the both of us.
So when you’re hanging out with a newly divorced woman, the majority of the time she just needs no-strings-attached sex action to “get her groove back”. She wants some fun, and she wants to be reminded how sexy she was before her ex-husband destroyed that. Understand too, she just got out of a serious relationship with bad memories and she will not want to jump into another serious relationship for a long time, especially with a man much younger than her.
Never been married cougars tend to have never been married for a reason. Usually they have a lot of emotional baggage or weird quirks. People that never been married can’t commit to anything; either because they’re extremely picky or they’re just fooling themselves. I’m not saying you can’t date them, but just beware.
The Less Needy You Are, The Better
You need to realize that whether your relationship with a cougar was an ‘one night stand’ or ‘friends with benefits’, not being clingy or needy is extremely important. Why? Because a lot of cougars are independent. They have jobs, children, and some of them have gotten out of a bad marriage, and the last thing they need is another needy man. So remember, their CHILDREN AND WORK WILL ALWAYS GO AHEAD OF YOU, no matter how special you are to her.
Dealing With Congruence Tests
This aspect is interesting because congruence tests from cougars can be dealt with in different ways, depending on how the test is delivered. If you have spent any time talking to cougars, the first test they will throw at you will be age. I’ve heard them all- “Aww, you’re like a baby” or “Oh my God! You are too young for me, get away!”, etc. They will try to put you in the child frame, and a lot of guys who don’t know how to pass these tests will engage the woman logically. WRONG. I will usually do two things. I will simply say “Oh cool, anyway…” and just keep moving the conversation along and ignoring it. Or I will actually reverse the frame on her by telling her that she’s my new cougar, and that we’re going to have amazing sex. I’m saying this in a playful way, and I’m physically escalating as well. Passing a test while escalating at the same time really proves that you don’t care about her irrational objections. She’s throwing these tests because she’s actually interested in you, and wants to see that you’re the real deal. Plus many older women have fantasized about being with a younger man, but may be a little defensive to act on it. Just be cool, pass the tests, have fun, lead and you will be fine.
Now you have to be careful about the way she’s throwing the test. Sometimes cougars will try to convince you that they’re too old or not attractive enough. They’ll usually say “There are so many hot girls here, what do you want with an old woman like me?” If you’re thrown this curveball, then you need to really QUALIFY her. Meaning, you should tell her what you like about her because she feels as though she’s not good enough for you. Older women will feel like this sometimes, especially if they are divorced and have felt unattractive for years. This is what happens in marriages that ended due to the husband cheating on her.
I’m generalizing the type of congruence tests just as an illustration. The responses to these types of tests will come through your own calibration and reference experiences.
Keeping Your Cougar Around
Lastly, after you’ve hit it off with an older woman, there are a few things that you should remember to keep her around-
1) Never complain to her if you aren’t together enough. She has a lot going on in her life, especially if she has kids. She will not ditch them for you, so just deal with it.
2) Older women are looking to have fun and sex (they’re at their sexual peak), but they still want someone who is mature. Being mature, young, and fun are an amazing formula for a cougar.
3) If you’re a fun, mature, and masculine guy….she will not want to lose you. Men her age don’t have the stamina to keep up with her. This is a great advantage for a young guy. Tell her how sexy she looks, give me a good time in the bed, and don’t be clingy. You will gain so much emotional value that she’ll want to keep you as her boy-toy for a long time.
I hope this has been helpful. Do not be intimidated. Cougars are looking for men that will sweep them off their feet, and they need that more than any other girl.
Guest Post by Fred Moody