Overcoming Resistance in Seduction
The ideal situation is when there is little to no resistance in the seduction phase. This happens when a girl knows from the open that there is a very good possibility of sex if she continues interacting with a man, and she deems him sex-worthy.
However, when a girl puts the brakes on seduction, there are several ways to overcome her hurdles of resistance and still lead to sex.
Although I haven’t encountered Last-Minute-Resistance (LMR) in months, I’m reminded of techniques Ive used in the past. I’ve listed them below.
Overcoming Resistance in Seduction
She needs to feel you’re normal and safe-
Don’t do anything forcibly. Always leave a way to “escape” in case she really doesn’t want sex to happen. If she mentions the word “uncomfortable”, you’re not having sex that night. Respect her decision and shoot for another date and time to see her. Often it’s not an attraction issue, but rather an emotional issue that might not involve you at all (a recent ex-boyfriend she still hasn’t gotten over, religion, her period, trust, other emotional baggage, etc).
Be her Lover, not her Boyfriend-
A Lover inspires emotions of lust. When a girl sees you as possible boyfriend material though, she’s likely to hold out, worried about appearing ‘easy’. You want the girl to act on her sexual desires, so activate those desires by allowing her to feel sexy and making sex as enjoyable for her as it is for you. Create the win/win for you AND her, whether it’s a hot No Strings Attached time or a relationship that leads to something more meaningful.
Have a nonjudgmental attitude about sex-
You’re both adults and sex is an activity two consenting adults should enjoy. She shouldn’t feel you’re judging her in anyway for having sex because it’s not a big deal! It’s only a matter of time before she’s comfortable enough and the clothes fly off (don’t put a timetable to this though). Be persistent, positive, and non-reactive. Not reactive means not pouting or displaying signs of bitterness when a girl isn’t as responsive to your sexual advances as you’d like. Remember, sex isn’t a big deal, so don’t make it an issue.
Don’t get caught up in gaming the girl-
She doesn’t need to know your only agenda is sex. Balance the sexual drive by showing her you’re not just some random guy she’s attracted to. Show her you care. Crystallize yourself as a REAL person and actually enjoy your time with her. Talk about childhood, your family, goals in your life, etc. Develop a more meaningful connection, especially if she thinks you’re the typical Player type.
Suggest you just ‘cuddle’-
When you say ‘cuddle’, you really mean cuddling your penis along her vagina. But to a women, cuddling translates to an intimacy that she’ll be comfortable with (and love). When cuddling, get her comfortable with your touch, and then escalate with sexual foreplay. Make it fun by getting her to qualify herself as a great cuddler too e.g. “I LOVE to cuddle…it’s serious bizness so you better be good!” Say this with a smirk. Credit to Stefan on the technique.
Be in tune when she’s ready to resist-
Be ready to pull back before she does. If I’m going to finger a girl, I’ll move my hand away before she ever gets the chance to. When this happens, I’ll work another part of her body, like caress her arms, kiss her neck. This will demonstrate that you’re aware and in-tune with her mind and body. She’ll trust you more because she’ll know that you know what you’re doing.
Don’t give away too much!-
You know the tacky makeout guy in the club? Well, he isn’t pulling girls home at the end of the night. Giving away too much means deflating sexual tension too early; understand that sex is the result of a release of sexual tension (the greater the tension, the greater the release). The most effective way to manage sexual tension is to put up your own barriers and get her chasing you. For example, “It’s too bad in not into PDA…you have no idea what we’d be doing right now”. If she insists on knowing what that means, tell her to use her imagination
Escalate on yourself-
Take off your shoes. Slowly take off your shirt. Then your pants. Pace accordingly and she’ll follow. This is you setting the tone. An extreme example is The Naked Man routine.
Have her escalate on you-
Sometimes a girls’ resistance to sex will be full effect, even when it’s apparent she wants sex badly. You need to help lead her. For example, put her hand close to your genitals, get her to massage you, etc.
Get her to verbalize her attraction and emotions for you-
Ask the girl, “What do you like about me?” This gets her thinking about the positive emotions you provide and helps rationalize sex. I’ll ask too, “Why delay the inevitable?”
You’re blaming her sexiness for you being so shamelessly upfront about your sexual desires as a man. You’re trying your best to keep your hands off, but her spell-binding sexiness is too much to handle. Make this conflict obvious with playfulness and a grin- “You’re just…wow…how could I not be all over you right now….so fucking sexy…getting me all hard…you knew this would happen when I saw you. I can’t just pretend your hotness has no effect on me…I’m just a guy…it would be rude of me if I didn’t give you an orgasm…g’damn”. Use your own creativity to deliver a panty-dropping soliloquy that will be shockingly awesome.
If the subject of sex gets serious, just chill back, and self-amuse. For example, sing the lyrics to a random song, joke about pop culture/fashion/media, have a pillow fight. Amuse yourself. This is you shifting her state and emotions, getting her comfortable. When she’s in a more playful mood, then deploy sexual foreplay for increased intimacy. She needs to feel ‘it just happened’.