Never Chase Women: Creepy, Unrequited Love & Why I Hate Bruno Mars
Before I explain why I hate Bruno Mars, let me admit that Bruno Mars is an extremely talented singer; there are no doubts about this.
However, as talented as he is, his music make me absolutely sick. Not as someone who has discriminating musical taste, but as a man. I’ve never felt so disgusted listening to a song before I heard “Grenade”. Then a few days later I was ever more disgusted to see a group of seemingly straight men drive around singing along to the lyrics.
I understand Bruno Mars is a popular R&B singer with millions of fans worldwide, which includes men and women. But it’s a tragedy that men listening to his music are following bad advice on women without knowing it.
Why am I hating on just Bruno Mars when singers before him have also released vomit inducing music?
It’s because Bruno Mars’ music demonstrates everything a man should absolutely ignore if he desires actual success with women. It’s a new level of failing with women.
Why I Hate Bruno Mars
Some guys reading this right now might be confused. They might think, how can Bruno Mars be THAT bad to listen to if so many women say they love his music?
Understand that women are constantly bombarded with images of what their “ideal man” should be. This “ideal man” is always higher value, never equal or near the same level as the them. The “ideal man” is a man that can get any woman he wants, but for some reason he chooses her over all the other girls.
Women fantasize about this “ideal man” often. However, this “ideal man” isn’t real. It’s just an idea that leads to sometimes outrageous expectations of real men. Of course, this is followed by feelings of disappointment by women when those expectations are never realized.
When women listen Bruno Mars songs, they aren’t fantasizing about ordinary guys doing the stuff mentioned by the lyrics. No. They think of their “ideal man”, who they’re probably intimidated of; and that “ideal man” doing everything he can to make her feel more comfortable by either being overly nice, overly caring, putting her on a pedestal and making her feel special.
Never Chase Women
The Bruno Mars song, “Grenade”, tells the story of heartbreak caused by a failed relationship. It’s about a guy in love with a girl who he knows for a fact doesn’t love him the way he loves her.
Women live in fantasy land so this song is actually considered ‘romantic’ (within the mainstream). However, it’s only considered romantic when women fantasize about their “ideal man”, not the ordinary guy. Any person not her “ideal man”, and it no longer is romantic; it’s creepy, unrequited love that’s worthy of a police report.
Let’s examine the lyrics…
Bruno Mars – “Grenade”
Gave you all I had and you tossed it in the trash
To give me all your love is all I ever asked
Along with his “love”, his dignity is trashed too.
He’s chasing a girl who does’t feel the same way about him. This is unrequited love and it gets creepy.
I’d catch a grenade for ya
Throw my hand on a blade for ya
I’d jump in front of a train for ya
You know I’d do anything for ya
Nope, his love and dignity isn’t enough. He’ll risk dying for her too, anything to get this girl to feel the same way about him. And just how would this girl feel once she’s aware of all this?
If my body was on fire
Ooh, you’d watch me burn down in flames
You said you loved me, you’re a liar
‘Cause you never, ever, ever did, baby
She still wouldn’t care! She’s apathetic to his pathetic attempts at winning her affection. Bruno Mars then repeats the same lyrics, admitting that he knows that she wouldn’t care…
So why is he doing this? Oh, because he thought she said she “loved” him?
Creepy, Unrequited Love
“Love” is a feeling. In the context of dating, it’s conditional.
Just because a women says something, doesn’t mean really she meant it…or that she even remembers it. Women live in the moment. They’re extremely emotional; as such they’re far more whimisical in what they feel, how they act, and especially what they say.
A women might say she wants to meet her “Soul-Mate” or “The One”. This is just another fantasy. It’s not real, and again, she certainly isn’t thinking of the ordinary guy.
The idea of “Soul-Mates” or “The One” implies perfection (manifested by fantasy and unrealistic expectations). Thing is, no one is perfect and believing so is setting up for major disappointment. There is no “Soul-Mate” or “The One”. That’s a myth! Understand that there will be some that are more compatible than others, and that’s it.
Blame Disney. Blame social conditioning. Blame feminism if you want. However, blame yourself for ever believing “just be yourself” was enough to get girls.
Women aren’t aroused by ordinary guys or guys they feel equal to in value. Bob from Accounting might have been a worthwhile catch twenty years ago when women were looking for providers, but it’s the 21st century women aren’t settling on ordinary. Women are making it on their own, with or without the Bobs of the world.
When a popular singer like Bruno Mars tells ordinary guys that they should chase women, he’s destroying any chance they’ll ever have for success with women.
Never chase a woman because doing so will always result in them running further away. Thing is, when a man chases, the girl loses all respect for him. And when a girl no longer respects a man, she certainly will never be aroused by him.
Some men might then become desperate. They’ll cry and beg to win her affection. They’ll say and do whatever a women tells them. They might go as far to buy gifts, flowers, take her out on expensive dinners, etc. These efforts will never be considered romantic. No. They’ll be seen as creepy, unrequited love that she’ll laugh with her friends about. This isn’t what real men do either. This is ‘How to Fail with Women 101′.
Learn to have some dignity!
Cherishing someone that doesn’t feel the same is taking time away from those that would jump at the opportunity.
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Very true, I turn the radio station everytime I hear that song being played. Is man-degrading lol.
You must be really stupid if you don’t understand that the verses you quoted are metaphorical…
Also, when you want to analize a song then do it properly.. “Tell the devil I said hi when you get back to where you’re from” why did you choose to ignore this part? He knows that she isn’t good for him… So he isn’t still after her.
Anyways, I agree with you: chasing someone who doesn’t love you back is pointless and a waste of time. But this song is about heartbreak.. If you really love someone and been in a relationship for a long time, it’s not that easy to let go. It takes a while to realize that the person doesn’t love you the same way back and that it would be healthier to let go.
@Selina:
What do you mean he should analize a song properly? Should he use lube? Lol.
Do you understand the meaning of “Grenade”? If you don’t it’s about a man who loves a woman and would do anything for her, but she won’t do the same. He is not chasing her, he never said he was chasing her. And I agree with Selina, she has a point, the song is about heartbreak. And this ‘faggotry’ you speak of… Bruno Mars understands that a man has to respect his partner and give her all he has and do anything for her. I’m sorry that you don’t understand that and instead wrote a hate article. Maybe you will be able to interpret simple song lyrics next time.
But you should lay off with the “f” word, it makes you sound like an uneducated piece of trash. And besides, there is nothing gay about chasing a woman. It might be emasculating, but it isn’t gay.
You’re a moron if you think this is a “hate” article. I honestly think the females giving this guy shit about it are just mad because their is truth to what he is saying, particularly how women seem to always have their fucking head in the clouds.
thank you.
Good article, that song is one of the few that legitimately disgusts me. Fortunately the radio stations in my area don’t play it anymore.
I kind of agree with you, kind of don’t. I think there is a point in a relationship where you want the guy to chase you a little bit, but you have to be on the same page. What this song is describing, however, is people who are definitively NOT on the same page. So I would say yes, never chase a woman who does not want to be chased.
I hope all of that made sense.
Just a little criticism though… did we have to say “faggotry”? I’m not a fan of the epithet. Can’t we just say they’re being “losers”?
Chasing a women is never the way to go. Sure some women may say its cool because of the attention they get from it. From time to time the guy chasing may get the girl but that exception not the norm. Usually what ends up happening is the guy waste time with chasing a woman that is not really interested and is just enjoying being pursured. For all the guys out there go ahead and approach the women you are interested in. If she feels the same way cool if not just move on. Don’t waste your time chasing. I don’t care what any women tells you the fact is men of high value don’t waste their time chasing.
Dude. As a WOMAN, I find that if a MAN gives up easily that he had no good intentions in the first place. That moment of ebbing designs and the ‘playing it cool’ is a serious red flag in my female mind. I mean all boys are adorable when they are digging us ladies in the beginning regardless of how we feel about you, but that dose not mean you want to commit to anything. By pursuing a woman, you are showing her that you are not there for just a fling. You cannot expect us to ONLY chase you.
And the last thing, many women’s ‘ideal man’ is not EXTRAORDINARY. He truly is ordinary. What I mean is a reliable individual that in turn makes the woman feel emotionally secure. Any way good post, talking about your ideas is the only way to develop solutions. The song is lame to begin with because it’s sung by a ‘top of the pops’ douche.
peace
thanks for making my life complete!
On the Bruno Mars thing,to me,that’s typical R &B or Pop-supplicating to the woman.
I’m still waiting for the R&B artist who’s gonna come out with a song about a hot girl chasing him and he’s not wanting her.
A song for a true player. Kirko Bangz -Drank in My Cup
That Kiro Bangz track goes real hard!!! No Doubt!!!
Sheeeeeesh, this is one of the most hateful, stupid, idiotic blogs I have ever come across. I can’t even begin to respond to the Idiot that wrote this article. Why waste my time! Dude, wake up, don’t know what women you are talking about, but any woman would love to know that her guy would go to any lengths to show his love. Thats what its all about, deal with it. There are exceptions to everyone and every rule, but as a rule of thumb, it would behoove you to understand that its mainly about the women, if that woman isn’t happy, then you shall not have a happy home. Men who have been married for decades would most likely tell you to wake up and smell the coffee brother. The record is a replica of a man communicating his feelings and to what lengths he would go for the woman he loves, but he doesn’t feel her that she returns his love on the same level. Its not about chasing after that woman, but letting her know whats inside and how much you love her. Even the bible reads that no greater love can a man show for another than to give up his life. “Any man that shall lose his life to save another, will have everlasting life” So dude, its you and guys with warped, distorted, flawed thinking like yours who needs to get with the program! Wake up dude, in case you haven’t noticed, the divorce rate has risen above 50%. Its not about chasing after some woman who doesn’t return your feelings, but its about going to any lengths to let that woman know how much you do love her, and if she doesn’t return your love than you have cut your losses and move it along. Its not about women having unrealistic expectations of a man, because a woman should be able to feel that her guy would go to any lengths to make her happy. In case you haven’t figured it out yet dude, any man that maintains a relationship, marriage etc. for decades, 20, 30, 40+ years will without a doubt tell you, that if that woman isn’t happy, than you my friend will not have a happy home. So get off your high horses and stop insulting all women as if all women have unrealistic fantasy expectations of what they want in their man. Because from where many of us sit, we don’t even get the little that we do expect from you guys. Wake up dude, because that are not many women out here who wouldn’t want a guy who would express his love saying “I would take a grenade for you” Guess what, there are some men out there who have expressed that he would die for that woman, or his family and guess what they are not the ones who are having to resort to creating a blog about woman having unrealistic fantasies or bashing another man for making a reacord, because he is ruining their love life! wake up dude, its all about making that woman happy, if you ever find the key to doing that, then maybe your next blog will be about what it takes to keep a woman instead of one complaining about Unrequited Love!
By all means, if a guy wants that lady bad enough, then he damn well better chase after her. You only get one real chance it life to find that love of your life, don’t Fu”ck it up Dudes, because I guarantee you if you follow this Imbeciles advice who wrote this stupid, idiotic blog, you will be in the same boat that he is today!
The only women who would lose respect for a man chasing after them must be those dilly Wte girls! Don’t mistake all women to be alike. IF you like that girl and want her in your life or want to keep her in your life, then you damn well better chase after her, or make it clear how you feel, because if you don’t you may have missed out on the opportunity of tha life time! The only thing that you will most likely get from that woman who you don’t make your feelings known to is that she will Never know what or how you feel and the chances of you geting together will never happen!
And to once again to mention how stupid your blog is to make it about a song by Bruno Mars and him chasing after a woman is Absurd! The real story as some of us understand it, is that there appeared to be a lack of communication as both Bruno and his then girlfriend Chanel Malvar accused each other of cheating. Reportedly, they both loved each other and the pictures of them on the web speak for themselves. Either way, maybe somewhere in between lies the truth or lack of truth or maybe it was just a misunderstanding! Only the real parties involved will know.
So, get a Grip dude and stop using blogs as a platform to bash Bruno Mars, to insult women, or to warn men not to communicate their feelings to women! Your advice based on what you think Bruno Mars record is really about, is as Absurd as one can get! Maybe without Idiots like you out here giving Idiotic and bad advice based on your own miserable failed attempts at trying to tag a girl who more than likely showed no interest in you from day, one, but you couldn’t take no for an answer is your own fault. Don’t try to give bad advice to others based on a record by Bruno Mars that you don’t even have an inkling to what the entire record was about or the real reason why Bruno Mars wrote the song. Sheeesh, with Idiotic people like you giving advice based on his own personal failings, its no wonder, so many relationships fail! Get a Grip Dude as you know not what you are talking about! And for the record, the girl “Grenade” was reportedly written about still loves this guy! But life goes on!
Dyke.
Wow I can’t believe that big slut typed all that out. Didn’t bother, too long didn’t read.
Wow. Seriously hope this girl is under 21, which would be funny for someone so young telling us how to live our lives. Otherwise the level of self-entitlement and naivete in this post is just.. wow.
Hilarious. Just saw this girls post after making my other comment.
I have the research that shows that guys who show their “unconditional love” are the guys who get left behind in the long run.
The couples I have interviewed that have been together decades and who are STILL going strong always share this in common: The girl is STILL chasing after HIM, and the guy knows how to work it so that they both continue to feel the romance, excitement, adventure and love that they felt decades ago.
Massive research will show that guys whose MO can be described as “sharing their feelings” or “showing their unconditional love” tend to end up in unbalanced, unhappy relationships (lots of them don’t even realize it until their wife wants a sudden divorce, plus half their assets, stating that she hasn’t loved him for the last 5 years, 10 years, ever).
Communication has NOTHING to do with sharing your feelings, showing unconditional love, or telling the woman you will do anything for her. The majority of couples I have interviewed who have been together 25-40+ years never state anything close to that. Often, it’s more about knowing when to respectfully say ‘no’ and draw boundaries.
The reality is, men and women enjoy happier, MUCH more exciting, longer relationships when guys drop the whole “share all my feelings” thing.
I’m not writing about things I think “should” be true, or “hope” are true. I’m talking about statistical, factual reality. Unless the entire world turns upside down tomorrow, I’m betting that things will remain this way for a good while.
Be Amazing,
Jack D. Serrano
Then again, maybe Bruno Mars was right…
“Dude, wake up, don’t know what women you are talking about, but any woman would love to know that her guy would go to any lengths to show his love.”
True.
And then the woman ditches you, b/c you aren’t interesting anymore.
There was this girl I cared deeply for and everything just felt so perfect with her and she seemed to really enjoy being with me until I let her know how I felt about her. I told her I loved her and would do anything for her and then it flipped all around. I went from being a wonderful guy to being worth less than dirt and she won’t even look at me when I see her. It seems women don’t respect anyone who really cares about them.
I would like to thank you for posting that on Bruno Mars’s page. If you hadn’t done that I would have never found it. Everything you said makes perfect sense. Thank you!!
BAHHAHAH you people commenting that you should chase a women and always “Show her ur unconditional love” are just WAY out there, you dont know wtf ur talking about and should shut the fuck up you brainwashed faggots.
Big up JT good stuff
You hit the nail on the head in this article.
This just about sums it up: “Thing is, when a man chases, the girl loses all respect for him.”
This is even more true when you get are really high value women who have had guys chasing them around since they popped out of the womb.
You ever hear guys say they like a challenge? Yeah. Girls like challenges too. If the guy is chasing her (Read: She is the challenge, not him) then he is already playing a losing game. So much more simple to switch roles so that she is chasing you.
Guys would do themselves a world of good to find out HOW to actually have a great dating life while not chasing women (Hint: Go meet lots and lots of women).
Entertaining blog you have here.
Enjoyed reading.
Be Amazing,
Jack D. Serrano
Any guy that “wants a challenge” with a woman or in a relationship doesn’t have much else going in his life. That’s the last place I would prefer to have a challenge. Sex is sex.
Hi JT
On the whole, I think you are pretty close with the message of this article. Toxic/disempowering song lyrics are a bit of a ‘red rag’ – song lyrics can work as a powerful form of hypnosis! Be careful what you listen to!
Even if the song is ‘about heartbreak’ as Selina has said, that doesn’t mean that it isn’t implicitly seeding un-resourceful attitudes and mindsets – disempowerment, ‘at effect’ thinking, reactivity, ‘unhealthy co-dependence’, romanticising succumbing to negative emotion etc.
All that said, I have to agree with those who have flagged the use of “faggotry” here as being somewhat less than cool. Personally, I see you as a guy who is capable of subtle and nuanced thinking, but using a term like that, without any sense of irony, just frames you up badly IMO (suggesting more prejudice than intelligent analysis).
All the very best
James Tripp
I couldn’t agree more with the sicking nature and misguided advice of this and other more recently released Mars songs. Bruno Mars connection…wait for it… After attending one of my clasess titled “Get Your Balls Out of Her Purse” alpha male based coach, Flash went out to his car to write a mock love song called “My Balls Are In Her Purse” to be released on his next album, with music video in production this week. The song was written, it seems to me, well over a year ago. Flash is ahead of his time. To check in on the video visit his website http://www.FlashFontanelli.com
I totally agree with you. The very first time I heard his song, I felt the same. I think that he cries too much.
His lyrics are very diferent from, for ex, T.I, Enrique Iglesias, etc., where they set a frame that they are high value.
great post
Personally, I hate Bruno Mars, because he’s a Nice Guy™ who actually gets laid by being nice. Wtf?
It’s funny that you say you shouldn’t chase women because they just run away. Women don’t run, girls do.
You want a woman, act like a man.
Bruno mars is an excellent singer there is no doubt God punish the idiot that wrote this article
The first thing he did was give props to his singing talent, he was speaking more of the content of the song
The question I ask myself when I am about to do anything which is super unproductive like chasing a girl who is not showing equal interest – is there nothing better that I could be doing with my time right now? Taking out the trash, hitting the gym, doing the laundry, working on my business, trying to cook a new dish, calling up an old friend, reading a book or whatever? The answer to this question has always been that yes, I should indeed be making better use of my time.
All this PUA advice is bullshit. Most girls don’t have an army of guys chasing after them. And if they do, they don’t realize it. If you keep sticking around when the girl isn’t into you, its called being annoying as shit. Most dudes know this. There is no such thing as a “sexual market”, where you have to have a certain value in order to get laid and women aren’t a fucking game-boy where you put cheat codes(up,up,down,down,left,left,right,right,B,A,Start, Get laid!) to work them. They’re people. And I’m not on some nice guy bullshit either. Memorizing lines and following bullshit advice won’t help you because no two people are alike. You can’t possibly accurately predict a girl’s reaction to a statement or question. Pretty much the only rule is if your nervous, she’s gonna be nervous too. This alpha-male garbage=bullshit
To invest on time to hate on something not so trivial at all, you need a hobby. It’s not that serious. Chill.
This is an example of Bruno Mars lyrics in real context, a guy playing TF2 trying to befriend a girl offering her video games:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2FGXqxoLHlI&list=FLc5t-nzD_vxbVHSSIk8yNQg&index=4&feature=plpp_video
Now, imagine that tomorrow Charlize Theron receives this “Bruno Mars romantic style letter”:
“I would go through all of this pain
Take a bullet straight through my brain
Yes, I would die for you, baby
But you won’t do the same”
Poor bastard would be in jail 24 hours after writing that.
This article is not helpful. Women are not all alike, and if you are having consistent trouble in the dating market, it’s more than likely not the womens fault, or Bruno Mars fault either, it’s more than likely no ones fault but your own. And if you think the UPS guy or the guy at kinkos (ordinary men basically) are going to have women chasing them lol, then YOU are living in a fantasy world, and are setting unrealistic expectations for people, and yourself. Relationships need GIVE and take. People like to feel wanted, women included. If you think that depriving your feelings and affection for her is going to keep her interested in you, then you might want to rethink that. We all like mystery and no one wants a total sap, but let’s use some logic: coldness and/or lack of affection from a potential mate is a general sign that they don’t want you, not a sign to keep chasing them, so why think a women will keep chasing you if you show coldness and/or no affection to her? You wouldn’t continue to chase her if the shoe was on the other foot, so why expect a woman to chase you? So yeah, stop expecting women to chase you. That sort of thinking sounds like it’s for the young, inexperienced, and un-date-able anyway. We are all human, and at the end of the day men and women are really not that different in what they want and expect from one another in relationships, in short: we all supposed to give something and want to feel we are getting something back in return. In general, long lasting relationships don’t have any one set thing that makes them last either, they are usually built off of a number of things: communication, reception of communication, respect, understanding, romance and love. If you want to get a woman and keep her then you better have these qualities, and also learn how to take the right amount of affection and give it as well.
Also, I believe the lyrics to grenade by Bruno mars has more to do with recognizing that someone doesn’t love you the same and moving on from them. Not just blindly continuing to love someone who doesn’t love you. You’d understand that if you read all the lyrics to the song and not just pick and choose the lyrics you want to read and access.
Just going to say I agree with OP for most of the points mentioned on what behavior drives women away. However, too much of this “high value” behavior even in moderation can destroy relationships with women who authentically care about you. Women may live in the moment, but don’t think for a second they haven’t forgotten every single time they wished you would do more things like buy her flowers, take her out to nice dinners, etc because they feel left out that all their friend’s boyfriends are doing those things for them. Or that you just don’t really care about them in general even if the sex is great and they find you very attractive.
I’m saying this because my ex-fiance left me because I didn’t do enough of the things they take as “signs of love.” I know it’s not the norm in typical relationships, and it’s nonexistant if you’re just looking to get laid, but if you’re in deep you gotta start to turn it around if you want her to stick around. Maybe someone will get some use out of this comment, great site.
hahaha the first girl said analize
Look you should never chase girls. They are just animals and you have to treat them as such. They really like that. Every women is a slut, one just hides it better then the other.
WTF does that mean? not ALL girls are the same. i for one would not like to be treated like an animal. How is every woman a slut?
My my! The one who wrote this article is clueless of what women want. It may seem cheesy to some — but Grenade is very romantic from my point of view.
Don’t blame Bruno Mars — he’s not trying to “de-emaculinate” men. I think what he does is remind us girls of the sensitive side that few men still have. That, while being cool and doing good music. Honestly, you boys need this boost from Bruno’s music because nowadays, a lot of men only sing about grabbing *sses and calling their women sl*ts and b*tches.
i agree with you.
this song is actually about a guy that was in a relationship and found out the girl was cheating on him even though he gave her everything. that’s were “i gave you what i had and you tossed it in the trash” comes in. he’s saying he would do anything for her to be happy but the girl lied to him the whole time SAYING she loved him and didn’t give him anything but crap. if you don’t love somebody you don’t lie to them about it and lead them on like she did.
it has nothing to do with half the stuff you wrote about. and in my opinion he was telling her ‘vete a la mierda.’ and a man that would die for me doesn’t seem pathetic to me.
I’d suggest young dudes lean more towards Jay-Z, Big Pimpin for inspiration:
“You know I – thug em, **** em, love em, leave em
Cause I don’t ****in need em
Take em out the hood, keep em lookin good
But I don’t ****in feed em
First time they fuss I’m breezin
Talkin bout, “What’s the reasons?”
I’m a pimp in every sense of the word, *****
Better trust than believe em
In the cut where I keep em
Til I need a nut, til I need to beat the guts
Then it’s, beep beep and I’m pickin em up
Let em play with the **** in the truck
Many chicks wanna put Jigga fist in cuffs
Divorce him and split his bucks
Just because you got good head, I’ma break bread
So you can be livin it up? **** I..
Parts with nothin, y’all be frontin
Me give my heart to a woman?
Not for nothin, never happen
I’ll be forever mackin
Heart cold as ***assins, I got no passion
I got no patience
And I hate waitin..
Hoe get yo’ *** in”
All though, he did finally cash in his chips with Beyonce..
I am weak from the ignorance and outright stupidity this article oozes. LORD have mercy….
At the end of the day women are emotional passionate creatures, we have estrogen, we have the ability to nurture a life inside of us and we’re constantly changing month to month. Women are emotional because that’s how we’re wired period. If you dont want to deal with emotions take that up with the creator or however you think we got here. Every human needs balance, men provide women with the logical stance and feeling protected so we can get our head out of the clouds when needed and be nurtured and comforted when needed, women provide the emotion so that we can raise families and men can put this hard exterior ego aside when needed so that they can lay back in a happy home. Together they can take on the world full force knowing each has a support system at home or just someone who has his back through anything.
Have you ever met a women who didnt have a dream? She’s probably a miserable scorn women, chasing you frantically to “complete” her. Father’s raise their daughters to dream so they can evolve into the beautiful moms that raised us all. So if you don’t want to nurture and care for a women and love that emotion and passion that people refer to as their “better half” and vice versa, just be a single egotistical asshole and you’ll be blogging about how “right” you are just like this guy (it’s 2013, we all know it’s wayyy too easy to prove whatever argument you want to prove these days). The problem you might find with this is that you’ll be dealing with a superficial women who wants you for your assets rather than having a real emotional connection with someone who cares about your well being. This kind women will be with you all the way up till your dieing day, whereas the type of women who chases a man will leave you when the next good guy comes along. She’s all about a come up.
It’s lonely out here folks, cause everyone wants to be right and everyone soo afraid of emotions and showing who they really are. Hey! we’re all afraid of being hurt again. I hate Bruno Mars’ song as well, it’s just one of those annoying songs that won’t stay out of your head, but he’s an artist, all artist are emotional, for anyone to expect a “macho man” stance from him is hilarious. Lets just be okay with how each sex naturally is (hasn’t changed since the beginning of time and it won’t change) and stop judging each other. Men and women should be different and no one should be with anyone who isn’t ready to be an adult and open up, say what’s on their mind regardless of what it is, and welcome someone into their life with open arms.
STOP THE GAMES! This blog is a “how to” for how you can play games and how you can perpetuate the phony relationships in your life and the uneasy feeling each time you meet someone that has potential. I have to give this guy props for starting a convo about this though, so i disagree that this blog doesnt have purpose, he’s still getting hits a year later lol. Good luck!
” Women aren’t aroused by ordinary guys or guys they feel equal to in value” OMG so true! Do you know how many of us are married to men we are not attracted to? sucks. We marry the one’s we are not attracted to, but they love us. The others break our hearts..but they “win”.
Are you kidding?? the interpretation falls on the listener. If you interpretation is about a stalker, maybe you have or had those feelings for somebody and reflect yourself on this lyrics.
Thats your problem! don’t throw it to everybody!
My interpretation for this song are very different.
You sir are a modern man and this article is awesome!
I admit “Grenade” is alittle too far especially in the end where he jumps in front of a train but honestly there were no guys following the footsteps of this song in my town They actually made fun of it by going ” Youll catch a grenade for ME YEAH YEAH” You’re crazy if you think they are actually learning from this song
Coming from a female’s point of view, I can’t STAND listening to his music because his songs are always the same. He’s always singing about the woman who wronged him, the woman he can’t have. The last thing I want to hear about is more heartbreak.
The message he sends is one of emasculation at its finest. The women I know who want a man to chase them end up at 40 years old, single, and horribly unhappy. Same with the men who want women to chase them. The problem is they get a thrill from it, but once they’ve been with someone long enough, the thrill fades. So it’s off to a new “love” that will thrill them once again.
These songs just give people like that a pass for continuing to fail at relationships instead of telling them how to fix their problem.