Never Chase Women: Creepy, Unrequited Love & Why I Hate Bruno Mars
Before I explain why I hate Bruno Mars, let me admit that Bruno Mars is an extremely talented singer; there are no doubts about this.
However, as talented as he is, his music make me absolutely sick. Not as someone who has discriminating musical taste, but as a man. I’ve never felt so disgusted listening to a song before I heard “Grenade”. Then a few days later I was ever more disgusted to see a group of seemingly straight men drive around singing along to the lyrics.
I understand Bruno Mars is a popular R&B singer with millions of fans worldwide, which includes men and women. But it’s a tragedy that men listening to his music are following bad advice on women without knowing it.
Why am I hating on just Bruno Mars when singers before him have also released vomit inducing music?
It’s because Bruno Mars’ music demonstrates everything a man should absolutely ignore if he desires actual success with women. It’s a new level of failing with women.
Why I Hate Bruno Mars
Some guys reading this right now might be confused. They might think, how can Bruno Mars be THAT bad to listen to if so many women say they love his music?
Understand that women are constantly bombarded with images of what their “ideal man” should be. This “ideal man” is always higher value, never equal or near the same level as the them. The “ideal man” is a man that can get any woman he wants, but for some reason he chooses her over all the other girls.
Women fantasize about this “ideal man” often. However, this “ideal man” isn’t real. It’s just an idea that leads to sometimes outrageous expectations of real men. Of course, this is followed by feelings of disappointment by women when those expectations are never realized.
When women listen Bruno Mars songs, they aren’t fantasizing about ordinary guys doing the stuff mentioned by the lyrics. No. They think of their “ideal man”, who they’re probably intimidated of; and that “ideal man” doing everything he can to make her feel more comfortable by either being overly nice, overly caring, putting her on a pedestal and making her feel special.
Never Chase Women
The Bruno Mars song, “Grenade”, tells the story of heartbreak caused by a failed relationship. It’s about a guy in love with a girl who he knows for a fact doesn’t love him the way he loves her.
Women live in fantasy land so this song is actually considered ‘romantic’ (within the mainstream). However, it’s only considered romantic when women fantasize about their “ideal man”, not the ordinary guy. Any person not her “ideal man”, and it no longer is romantic; it’s creepy, unrequited love that’s worthy of a police report.
Let’s examine the lyrics…
Bruno Mars – “Grenade”
Gave you all I had and you tossed it in the trash
To give me all your love is all I ever asked
Along with his “love”, his dignity is trashed too.
He’s chasing a girl who does’t feel the same way about him. This is unrequited love and it gets creepy.
I’d catch a grenade for ya
Throw my hand on a blade for ya
I’d jump in front of a train for ya
You know I’d do anything for ya
Nope, his love and dignity isn’t enough. He’ll risk dying for her too, anything to get this girl to feel the same way about him. And just how would this girl feel once she’s aware of all this?
If my body was on fire
Ooh, you’d watch me burn down in flames
You said you loved me, you’re a liar
‘Cause you never, ever, ever did, baby
She still wouldn’t care! She’s apathetic to his pathetic attempts at winning her affection. Bruno Mars then repeats the same lyrics, admitting that he knows that she wouldn’t care…
So why is he doing this? Oh, because he thought she said she “loved” him?
Creepy, Unrequited Love
“Love” is a feeling. In the context of dating, it’s conditional.
Just because a women says something, doesn’t mean really she meant it…or that she even remembers it. Women live in the moment. They’re extremely emotional; as such they’re far more whimisical in what they feel, how they act, and especially what they say.
A women might say she wants to meet her “Soul-Mate” or “The One”. This is just another fantasy. It’s not real, and again, she certainly isn’t thinking of the ordinary guy.
The idea of “Soul-Mates” or “The One” implies perfection (manifested by fantasy and unrealistic expectations). Thing is, no one is perfect and believing so is setting up for major disappointment. There is no “Soul-Mate” or “The One”. That’s a myth! Understand that there will be some that are more compatible than others, and that’s it.
Blame Disney. Blame social conditioning. Blame feminism if you want. However, blame yourself for ever believing “just be yourself” was enough to get girls.
Women aren’t aroused by ordinary guys or guys they feel equal to in value. Bob from Accounting might have been a worthwhile catch twenty years ago when women were looking for providers, but it’s the 21st century women aren’t settling on ordinary. Women are making it on their own, with or without the Bobs of the world.
When a popular singer like Bruno Mars tells ordinary guys that they should chase women, he’s destroying any chance they’ll ever have for success with women.
Never chase a woman because doing so will always result in them running further away. Thing is, when a man chases, the girl loses all respect for him. And when a girl no longer respects a man, she certainly will never be aroused by him.
Some men might then become desperate. They’ll cry and beg to win her affection. They’ll say and do whatever a women tells them. They might go as far to buy gifts, flowers, take her out on expensive dinners, etc. These efforts will never be considered romantic. No. They’ll be seen as creepy, unrequited love that she’ll laugh with her friends about. This isn’t what real men do either. This is ‘How to Fail with Women 101′.
Learn to have some dignity!
Cherishing someone that doesn’t feel the same is taking time away from those that would jump at the opportunity.