Mediocrity of Masturbation
If there’s one destructive habit that destroys the motivation for men to approach women, it’s masturbation.
Don’t approach women, don’t get laid. It’s plain and simple. This should be all the motivation necessary.
However, for some men, masturbation is an instant gratification whose indulgence kills the motivation to approach women.
That motivation to approach is driven by sexual desire based off the human need for affection and intimacy. When sexual desire isn’t satiated, it creates physiological tension, which inevitably requires release (ejaculation).
This either propels men to approach women or approach the computer.
It’s a decision made on sexual frustration, either choosing the fantasy of hope or the reality of intimacy. One is living in mediocrity and hopelessness, while the other leads to real measurable success with women.
A man transforms to a shell of his most attractive self when chooses masturbation. He saps away a vital energy and instead becomes a lethargic drone with nothing to look forward to except his stash of high-definition porn.
Psychology Today also details the harming effects masturbation has on men. In short, the PT article states that frequent masturbation results to,
-increased social anxiety
-impaired focus and concentration
-lost optimism
-less rewarding relationships
-possibly even depression.
Of course it’s easier going to a porn site and preparing for five-knuckle shuffle times.
The gratification from masturbation is only temporary and the pleasure will always be a fantasy. This becomes a danger when masturbation becomes compulsive, almost like an addiction, and the stimulation needed to get off becomes increasingly weirder and perverted.
Combating compulsive masturbation will require disciple and changing habits. This starts with regulating emotions, and harnessing sexual desire towards accomplishing something that’s actually productive; examples include weightlifting, starting a new project, or simply going out to approach hot women 
When a man has too much idle time with nothing productive in the works, he must keep busy or else the temptation of high-definition porn might be too much to handle.
He should refrain from masturbation at least three days before intending to go out and approach women. Or, have a once a week schedule, one and done; this can be the highlight of his week (hopefully it isn’t).
With regards to meeting women, masturbation is the equivalent of eating fast-food before going out to a five-star restaurant. Fast-food can be fine in small doses, but compared to gourmet food, it will always be mediocre. It’s a choice, but not the most healthy.
The mediocrity of masturbation is that in the end, you’re still only fucking yourself and not hot women.
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While I partially agree with what you’re saying I disagree with the overall message. I feel the heavy stigma masturbation for males receives, from people of both genders, is what’s fueled a lot of the inflation of female market value. Guys think simply wanking off is wrong, despite the fact that the urge to relive ones balls is pretty natural if you ask me.
I.thinking the issue arises especially with young guys who’ve got the natural sex drive to bust 2+ nuts a day and still keep goin. These guys are told that jerking off is wrong and shameful so they don’t do it and with a force rivalling 151 they start to have a skewed view of the world and standards take a rapid decline. One hing leads to a other and now a half way decent young Guy is banging a sweatpants fatties while her Uggs and chipotle gift cards take up space in his house.
I think excessive masterbation and masterbation in lieu of normal healthy socialization are bad. But telling a Guy “don’t jerk off, go meet and bang a hot girl” only works for guys who don’t need to be told that in the first place
It’s true that men need release (it’s a primal human need, natural, and healthy to do so), but the effects of masturbation causes guys to be less outgoing, less energetic, and have less of a desire to approach women.
Again, if a guy isn’t approaching women, he isn’t getting laid. Period.
“don’t jerk off, go meet and bang a hot girl”
Actually, this is EXACTLY the sort of thing I wish I was told when I was masturbating at least twice a day. I would’ve participated in more productive activities (gym, work, hobbies).
I don’t know the specific physiological/chemical results from masturbation, but ejaculation does drain a vital energy that men are unaware of, only because frequent masturbation is so common.
I do agree with you that not masturbating can cause a guy to lower his standards and go for girls that aren’t worthwhile. This should never be an excuse though.
It’s up to him to raise his standards, but if a guy is masturbating on a regular basis and NOT getting laid by women, he needs to examine my claim for himself.
Ultimately, masturbation is weaksauce.
Masturbation causes a decrease in serum testosterone. A trial was done which found that men who abstained from masturbation completely experienced a 45.7% increase in serum testosterone on the 7th day, which dropped relatively rapidly over the next day or so to a level that is still noticeably higher then before the peak.
A second group in the test abstained for 7 days before masturbating and experienced the 7th day serum testosterone peak on both occasions before returning to the post-peak level by masturbating afterwards.
Source: http://www.zju.edu.cn/jzus/2003/0302/030219.pdf
It was a placebo. They were aware of the study and the impending pressure of having to perform and wondering if their testosterone actually did decrease CAUSED the decrease in testosterone. 100% from the brain.
The individuals who abstained were proud of going through such a trial, and expected positive results. Therefore, testosterone increased.
NEWS FLASH: WOMEN MASTURBATE TOO. And it’s fine. Sexuality is really fluid, and really normal. People need to stop getting so weirded out by natural bodily functions.
Also, we like to talk about masturbation with our partners; it’s really great to know someone you like fantasizes and pleasures themselves while thinking of you. Usually it’s mutual. Talking about it will make things even better and open relationships up to experimentation. SO MASTURBATE AS MUCH AS YOU DAMN WELL PLEASE
I think this guy Chad is right on the money. If anything masturbation has health benefits especially for the prostate, and I doubt that anyone can get more sex that he can handle at 22 years old(my age), I know I’ don’t, so suplementing with masturbation is acceptible.
Even JT isn’t 100% against it. Looks like the healthy thing to do is if you’re gonna do it, do it sparingly and don’t fall into making this a complacent lifestyle decision. Clean your pipes if you must but don’t stop it from losing your “Erection in life” as David Deida puts it.
Oh yeah thats why my motivation, optimism and confidence that I build through following the suggestions and excercises from pick up books are inconsistent because everytime I approached and talk to a hot girl I often end up masturbating at night. Most of the night I masturbate 2 times a day and the day after that I felt very weak, unmotivated and procastinating on almost everything. Im improving my inner game and confidence around hot girls I couldn’t find the answer why my confidence isn’t consistent. It took 3 to 4 days to get myself back again. This is sucks! thats why after I masturbate, my anxiety around people in general including woman always came back like I didn’t do anything at all. Its because I masturbate too much. Sometimes I masturbate 5 times a week. I learned a lot with this article. Thanks JT, NOW I KNOW!
I should say the point of masturbation is two-fold, you should be able to compartmentalize both the need of having to bust the nut & also reserve energies to approach women. The 3 day period of ‘generating’ sexual energy is almost spot on, but it depends on how you plan on hitting on girls, maybe you tend to go to bars/club and not approaching during daytime so you could bust a nut like 3 days before going out friday and be fully reserved. working out also generates much more sexual energy that fuels you to approach.
In the rather extremist example you could have the guy who is so obsessed of having to unload his load he would after failed attempts of picking up chicks on a given night retort to monetary ways of getting his needs met which I think is the other extreme of not wanking of yourself.
My fellow men, while masterbation may relieve some tension, it’s not the same, and the writer is pretty accurate. Let’s go find a woman to enjoy having sex instead and stop our inner fears from getting what we as men WANT and DESIRE. Get rid of the porn and get a real woman.
I’ve discovered that prostitutes are cheaper than “real women”.
Yes but we seduce prostitutes way to easily with money! No fun there.
Or you could be normal and enjoy both.
It’s all fantasy in the end. The effort some men put into chasing endless women saps any man faster than masturbation could. Be careful now, I am not reccomending or criticizing maturbation. I am merely pointing out that maturbation and chasing endless women are the same disease caused by false priorities.
It’s really about the importance we place on things. That is what has to be addressed rather than the manifestation of that priority order. Strangely enough, masturbation can sometimes get us more clarity on that priority order without breaking the bank.
Jerking off is a waste of time.
Guys who jerk off are almost ALWAYS avoiding SOMETHING. Some negative feelings, or just procrastinating.
Mindless versus mindful masturbation. Kind of a funny concept, but if you’re doing it MINDLESSLY (most are), you know you’re AVOIDING.
On the other hand (pun intended), go through down some classical music, light up some candles, and jerk one out, nice and lovingly. Self-love FTW. If you do that, I’ll lol, but at least I can’t say you’re being mindless in your masturbation.
–Tom
I have to say that I 100% agree. I am 38 and have had all types of relationships from short ones to one that lasted 10 years. I have read all kinds of stuff on “game” and there for me there has seemed to be no correlation between knowledge of game and my success with women.
I realized recently that there were periods in my life where I was magnetic to women to the extreme, where not only did I not have to have game, I didn’t even have to try. Gorgeous, beautiful women would pursue me. Unfortunately, the vast majority of my life has been the polar opposite. I get very little poontang and the poontang that I get is way lower quality than what I should be getting.
So I decided to really examine the periods of my life where I was successfully attracting gorgeous women effortlessly vs the periods of my life where it seemed like I couldn’t get laid if my life depended on it. Here is what I found: the periods of my life where I was extremely successful I happened to not be masturbating or looking at porn at all. Now I was having very frequent sex at times. So having sex did not correlate to less success with women at all, quite the opposite. Since puberty I have been a chronic masturbator and have gotten way less quality and quantity of women than a man like me should. The brief periods where I did not masturbate were accidental (even a broken clock is right twice a day.)
I am not saying my experience will be true for everybody. I can only speak of my own experience. Not masturbating is the only variable I have observed (in hindsight) that correlates to how much I attract women. I have not found any other factor that affects it much at all, including: learning “game”, dressing nice, having a nicer body, and all that other stuff I read about that is supposed to help. I’m not saying those things have zero effect, but for me they have been kind of like cutting my toenails to lose weight.
I am not 100% sure why there has been such an incredibly strong correlation between chronic masturbation and not getting laid, but I have a theory. Of course my theory is speculation; I don’t have proof. THEORY: We are animals. Animals screw. Screwing is natural. Animals don’t have to have “game”, dress nice, have fancy pick up lines, etc. All animals have is 1) sex drive and 2) instinct. Think about that: Sex Drive and Instinct. Believe me sex is natural. If our ancestors didn’t have sex we wouldn’t be here. So basically my theory states that if you want to get women, do the following: Forget everything you ever learned about “game”, just be yourself, stop frequent masturbation (I am personally going to only do it once per week which will require incredible discipline since I masturbate at least 1-4 times per day right now), and let NATURAL SEX DRIVE and NATURAL INSTINCT lead you to the sex you want.
Animals have been found to masturbate as well. Male kangaroos are known to orally stimulate themselves. Female hedgehogs are known to have used stones in the same way humans use sex toys.
There is nothing unnatural about masturbation.
I wack off becuase,i get frustrated with women constanstly rejecting me.
I think there are two concepts that need to be separated: sexual drive (as a primal force) and masturbation. I do agree that if you masturbate too much you are tired and won’t have the motivation to approach any hot women or do anything at all. On the other hand no masturbation at all puts men who masturbated a lot on a sexual “cold turkey”. Everything in moderation. Once a week is fine otherwise you walk around with blue balls all the time. Suddenly you find yourself having lots of extra time which can be used to get things done.
Masturbation shouldn’t be a option between pursing women and you by yourself.
I believe (my opinion only) the sexual drive that makes you pursue women and the ambition to achieve something (in any area in your life) is the same energy. It’s about how you channel it (See “Think and Grow Rich”, Chapter 11: The Mystery of Sex Transmutation).
With a wank once a week you got extra time and thus extra energy which you can use to be more driven and go after the things you want (women and your goals in life). Everything in moderation.
Peace out,
G
The real issues is pursuing a Woman to add to your world VS. Having a substitute to masturbation you see:
masturbation addiction comes from the flood of chemicals that are released into the brain during orgasm. As the brain begins to crave this “high,” the addict trains himself to climax quicker and more often. In addition, the addict becomes accustomed to the sensations of masturbation, sometimes to the point that “normal” sexual activity is not satisfying.
This will ultimately fuck with you thus causing you too look at Women like rocks to a crack-head, as oppose to valuing yourself like a Mack ( Man )
The Game is all about strategy, In my opinion though I am NOT immune to masturbation it had been during dry spells, and you develop habits. I rather develop the habit of getting with Dimes!!
It’s very simple, just, don’t masturbate.
Why overanalyze it, it doesn’t take a rocket scientists to know it is not healthy for your life. Not only does it lower your overall testosterone level, it builds up guilt and shame, lowers your confidence and drive drastically, can cause depression, and makes you a loser. And feel like one. I been there, used to kill it 5-7 times a day! And I would feel like my spirit is weak and I became socially awkward and uncomfortable, tons of negative thinking , LOW energy etc..proof is in the pudding.
But On the other hand, as I stop masturbation I felt 100% the complete opposite, started hooking up and attracting women easily, felt amazing confidence and High energy, and drive to meet women, so I did. One thing to note here is that I do work out 4 days a week on muscle. And I am not an ‘ugly ‘ guy, but masturbation makes me ugly. Screw what the scientists say, screw what the majority of people say, majority of people can’t think for themselves anyway.
Try it for yourself do the inner game work, stop masturbating and viewing porn, start talking to women etc and TELL me your life hasn’t changed.
Agreed! Good stuff!
Those feelings of guilt and shame are not caused by masturbation itself, but an individual discomfort with sexuality and the body. It absolutely does NOT lower testosterone, and as it releases endorphins to your brain, will NOT directly cause depression. AT ALL. However, your own disquieted, immature discomfort with your own bodily functions could.
I side with the theory that masturbation lowers attractiveness. I base it on my own personal experience and have my own biological theory. Studies show that women are more attractive when ovulating. Thus, why wouldn’t men be more attractive with a fully loaded baby making bag between their legs? I feel like the longer I go without masturbating, the more powerful my orgasm will be and mother nature makes females aware of which men could more surely impregnate them. However, as far as having a lot of sex with women goes, this does not lower attraction because it just demonstrates to mother nature that you are successful at breeding with women. Hard to word properly, but that’s my theory.
Women are perceived as more attractive during ovulation because our hormones at that time cause us to produce a scent that subconsciously lets men know we are fertile. Men do not give off different signals when they are “fully loaded” and when not, because they constantly produce sperm. Hence women have the cycle, and men are prepped all the time. Frequency of masturbation has absolutely nothing to do with chances of pregnancy.
The writer of this blog is dead right. Didn’t wank for seven days and women do find me more attractive.
I had a few separate women approach me. You literally ooze power and charisma when you’ve got a loaded gun. You stand out. 90% of men probably haven’t gone more than a few days without tugging since they started as a spotty teenager.
Say no to wanking. Say yes to power and confidence.
If you feel the urge just say NO! Then go and do something useful.
Peace and light!
“Frequent” masturbation may be bad, but I feel like guys who never do it cum faster. Did I make that up? I don’t have a penis so I’m being judgy and speculating.
Day 38 now…. Waking up bursting with energy. The temptation is always there, but you channel the energy into something constructive. Ask yourself….. what is the best use of my time now? Then go and do it.
One day at a time
Masturbation is good for you after lifting weights or after a stressful exam. Hell, when your girlfriend is getting boring, when you don’t feel like another one night stand, or because you can’t sleep.
Girls should be doing it too. The key is making sure you’re doing it in moderation. Not due to boredom or the fact that you’re not having success with the opposite sex. Or same sex, whatever floats your boat. Narcissists who are attractive masturbate more often than people who don’t think they’re all that, and have far more sex with far more partners. So there’s no way masturbation hurts your chances or self esteem.
Also… don’t let yourself cum, you can make yourself a tantra badass. Diet, genes, routine, cortisol and free radicals are what cause people to look bad. Porn is something that may cause a negative self perception, but if you have an imagination you don’t need porn. But I don’t think it’s good to do it more than a few times a week for other reasons unless you’re 14 or 15.
I am a healthy, intelligent young woman and I masturbate. It is very normal for adult humans to masturbate, especially men. They also tend to start earlier (as penises are quite obviously more physically prominent in general than vaginas.)
I can’t really confidently say anything about numbers; there’s no actual guidelines for how often a person should masturbate. There’s really not a problem until the urge becomes a dependency; addiction to masturbation is a form of sex addiction, and exists when an individual physically cannot resist the urge to masturbate at a set point in time or place.
Masturbation will not negatively affect sexual performance; in fact regular masturbation can increase endurance and can be a great aid to learning an individual’s preferences. It is actually beneficial to one’s mental health as well; masturbation is a wonderfully effective natural de-stresser.
The stigma surrounding masturbation has to do with our body-shame culture; we cover up and are modest about our sexuality, because it is perceived to be somehow rude or disgusting.
I find stigma against sexuality to be rude and disgusting. Sexuality is nearly universal and there is absolutely nothing wrong with someone who is comfortable with their own expressing that comfort.
That comfort is attractive. People who are ill at ease with their own nature are like immature little children.
Oh, and I talk to my boyfriend about our sexual habits and masturbation. I find it extremely hot that he would fantasize and touch himself while thinking of me.
Sex is not wrong. Masturbation is not sexually deviant. Both are extremely personal matters, and it is incredibly presumptuous for anyone to think they can tell another person what to do with their bodies and how to act and how they should handle their own sexuality.
So pun fully intended, FUCK OFF.
if you want to be confident with girls and also every other thing you do in life, NEVER you MASTURBATE. I used to be very confident and the centre of attention when i was a kid; the neatest student, the most intelligent student and i was very handsome. Girls really liked me and i loved them and love to play with them from that very young age(i was about 8 or 9 had my first kiss and smooch then). I was very good in sports, took the best position in my class and i was very popular and excelled at almost everything– i was genius no doubt and ppl knew it and i got more attention and more love from girls. To cut a long story short, when i was around 11, I was introduced to masturbation by a friend and i started enjoying it, l8r the same friend introduced me to porn and it got worse. i was what u could call a chronic mastubator lyk 6 tyms a day off and on for six years. It affected every aspect of my life, looking back i wish i was guided or had sex education(we dont normally do here in africa and my parents were always straitlaced in matters lyk that). I lost my virility, rarely studied nor exercised, developed shyness and social anxiety, poor memory, brain fog, back pain, irritability, mood swings, stunted growth, thin feature, lack of muscles, muscle cramps, sunken eyes,shrunken penis, stuttering speech, poor sight, low self esteem, lack lustre personality, low confidence, ED, PE cant look ppl nor girls in the eye, never had a girlfriend, never had sex apart from with hookers, I lost myself. I will never wish any of them on my greatest enemy. i used to read that it is healthy but maybe it is maybe not but over kill is castration. Around late 2011, i was reading PUA community due my frustration about never having a girl friend and I stumbled upon a link on how masturbation affects ur game with women by matt savage and I found this site: yourbrainonporn.com, i finally knew what was my problem and made effort to stop but each tym stopping for a few week then relapse. i fought the addiction truout 2012 and i can say i am really getting better maybe not what i would have been but glimpses of clarity here and there is enough to keep me going for the meantime, what more can i ask for; my grades in skul are f!@cked up and i am repeating a year sumtin that i thot would neva be said of me but i learnt my lesson and will always advise anybody DO NOT IN YOUR LIFE MASTURBATE AGAIN. a word is enof for the wise, if i had guidance i wouldnt have made this kind of wrong turn that i am paying d price for but anyway thats life.