Female Attractiveness & Male Entitlement

It takes a millisecond for a man to decide if he’s attracted to a girl. See girl, get aroused, and want girl. Simple, right?

Beyond this, each man has their own scale for how they rate female attractiveness; most notably on a 1-10 scale. The consensus seems to be that a “7″ is the default rating for a girl all men are interested in.

Realize though, that ratings can be influenced.

Female Attractiveness

A “7″ with the right amount of makeup, tanned, and dressed provocatively could pass for the hot club girl dressed to the “9s”…or if a “6″ stopped eating for a week, she could possibly be a “7″…or what about a girl with a hot body, but a butterface…or vice versa?

Although girls are objectified by men based solely on appearance, their appearances are subjective to each individual man. One man’s “9″, could be another man’s “6″.

Fortunately for men, appearance is almost irrelevant. This isn’t the case for women because lets be real- it’s not as if a ugly girl is jumping from a “4″ to an “8″ in attractiveness because of her personality

Male Entitlement

While the 1-10 hotness scale dictates how men see women, interestingly it also dictates how men see themselves; namely, their sense of entitlement.

How entitled a man feel towards a rating of women (on the 1-10 scale), will be the score of the woman he attracts. Truth.

I don’t have to explain how most men behave around a “5″ versus a “9″. Most men become reactive when they see a hot girl i.e. the hotter the girl, the less entitled they feel. And therein lies the problem.

Rather than actually enjoying the girl, these men become stifled and project possible signs of neediness, bitterness, or insecurity based around their feelings of entitlement, whether it’s conscious or not.

They think to themselves-

She out of my league.
She wouldn’t like me anyways.
She’s probably a stuck up bitch.
I wonder what my friends would think.
I can’t believe I’m talking to such a hot girl!
If only I had more money, then I could have her.
I’m not good-looking enough or rich enough for her.

Likewise, they might think they need a magical pickup line or story that will impress the girl enough to like them. All these imply that the man himself is not enough to get the girl.

Appreciate a woman’s beauty, but don’t let it surprise and affect you.

Let me discuss one of my most recent approaches-
I spotted a girl walking by herself in Union Square Park during the late afternoon. As she was walking towards me, our eyes met, and I knew all I had to do was get her attention, and then get her focused on me. After I motioned for her to stop, I told her, “I HAD to meet you” (because I did!). After introductory pleasantries, we spent the next couple of hours on an instant-date inside the coffee shop behind us. Fantastic date too!

A few days later, I decided to Google the girl I met. The search engine results came close to shocking me. The girl I approached had mentioned being a model, but I didn’t think too much of it. I’ve gone out with girls who called themselves “models” because they were featured on a club promo flyer or they belonged to an obscure modeling agency. However, this girl was a legit celebrity model as the 72,100 Google results indicated.

Thing is, I approached her just like any other girl I would be interested in, without any agenda or need for validation. I’m not going to lie though, if I had known she was a celebrity model, I’m not sure I would’ve been as much at ease.

Lesson: A girl is a girl is a girl!

The fact that I successfully attracted that caliber of girl exploded my sense of entitlement. If the next girl I approach happens to be a celebrity model, I know I won’t be as shocked when I’m with her. It is increased exposure and tangible real-world results with beautiful women that will flourish a man’s sense of entitlement.

Understand though, that if you want to date hotter girls, you need to be the male equivalent. It’s the Law of Attraction- Like attracts Like.

Whether it’s going to the gym, enhancing your style, educating yourself, or changing your status in life- recognize what’s holding you back. Become confident in yourself. It’s that confidence that will manifest to entitlement.

Entitled men realize that women will spend hours a day getting ready, putting on makeup and sexy outfits; all in efforts to impress them. They know that hot girls need boyfriends too. And that they deserve the girl because they deserve the girl, end of discussion. The entitled man sees a beautiful woman and thinks to himself, “That’s for me!”

Without entitlement though, men will only take what they think they can get, not what they really want.