Breaking-Up With Girls
I write a lot about getting girls, but I want to discuss the topic of breaking-up with them.
Understand that breaking-up with girls may or may not go smoothly.
Each girl will rationalize their relationship with you based on several things; some of these things you have no control over, and some may not involve you at all.
For example, her history & relationships with past boyfriends, her social group, her upbringing, as well as her overall feelings about romantic relationships will all factor into how she’ll emotionally react after breaking-up.
Breaking-Up With Girls
With casual relationships (hookups, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits), there’s little emotional investment from the girl. For these relationships, breaking-up doesn’t need to be verbally addressed because it’s already understood that the lack of texts, calling, and setting up plans means you’re no longer interested to see her. Unless you made promises to her you never intended to keep, the relationship will typically absolve on its own, with her already knowing there wasn’t an expectation for the relationship to advance anyway.
However, if you’re no longer interested to be seeing a girl and she’s under a different impression, then you should let her know that you’re not looking to pursue a serious relationship at the moment and that its best the two of you no longer see each other. Keep in mind, the longer you wait to do this, the more complicated and awkward the relationship becomes for the both of you.
If you’d still like to keep her around though, then keep the meet-ups between the two of you strictly at your place or hers. Suggest “hanging out”, but don’t take her out on a “date”. Avoid any romantic gestures or hints that might lead her into thinking the relationship is more serious than it actually is.
With serious long-term-relationships (LTR), girls will get hurt when you deliver the break-up news. Rather than delay the inevitable hurt, be direct and sincere. Also, be supportive by encouraging her and letting her know that although things didn’t work out between the two of you, she’ll eventually meet someone she’s more compatible with who will make her happy.
Breaking-up with girls can be tough because you’re dealing with a woman and her emotions, and you don’t know what you’re going to get.
Some girls will be disappointed, but will understand and eventually move on with their life. Other girls may hysterically cry, call you names, question your manhood and integrity, and believe you’re absolute scum. The break-up is something she will have to process entirely on her own, so keep your cool and remain calm.
Also, don’t let a girl convince you into getting back together! Remember that there’s a reason you’re breaking-up with her. Stick with your decision, no matter how difficult.
Whether you’re no longer interested and excited to see her anymore, or you’re certain the two of you aren’t compatible and have no future together, or you’re not looking for the same level of commitment in the relationship that she is, or you’re just unhappy…
Ultimately, breaking-up with girls is a decision you must make for yourself.