A Soul Destroying 9 to 5 Job
Readers of this blog know me as JT Styles; a 26 year-old dating blogger from New York City.
I love women. I also love blogging about my adventures with women, and inspiring guys to reach greater levels of success in their own dating lives.
However, I am not a full-time dating coach. This means that like most people, I work a 9 to 5 job to support myself.
9 to 5 on Monday through Friday, I wake up, suit up and take on my role as a Middle Manager. The job isn’t that stressful, I like the people I work with, the pay is okay…but office life feels like a ball and chain prison.
You, the reader, might be thinking…
“You should be thankful you have a job…especially IN THIS ECONOMY”.
Yes, I am thankful that having a job helps pay the bills, and what’s leftover is used for leisure.
However, doing a 9 to 5 job for the next 40 years of my life is not what I ultimately want. I don’t want to experience the fear of losing my job each time there are even hints of a recession, cutbacks, or outsourcing.
When I was in between jobs (read: unemployed), I was going out 4 nights a week, constantly meeting and hooking up with women. There was no asshat boss to answer to…no human resource cunt to worry about…no staring at an Excel spreadsheet hitting copy & paste…no deadlines or urgent emails…no annoying phonecalls….no hour long commutes on a packed LIRR train.
Going back to the 9 to 5 grind after this hiatus conflicted with the person I was growing into. My adventures going out to meet and hook up with women were relegated to a something of a weekend warrior activity.
After the excitement of the new job wore off, my overall confidence seemed to be decaying too. I’d feel like a king on weekends, but a peasant on weekdays. It wasn’t that long til I reverted back to the behavior of a mindless 9 to 5 drone, his soul destroyed into a abyss of quick-sand.
The boredom of work and lack of real purpose wasn’t congruent to what I truely valued.
I value financial independence, freedom to do what I want and when I want, and making my own fate. I know a 9 to 5 will never provide this for me.
My friends and family will say, “in this economy” this and that. I’ve made a decision though.
At the end of this month I will be handing in a two week notice to my employer. The decision to leave my current 9 to 5 is something I’ve thought about for over a year. This wasn’t a decision made on a whim or by my emotions. I need to take a step back and refocus my energy; to recharge my soul.
I may look for another job elsewhere, I may not. I may go back to school, I may not.
I don’t know what I’ll be doing yet. I only see a 9 to 5 job as a means to an end. That end is building the life I DESIRE.
What I do know is that the uncertainty excites me; my thoughts have been racing with business ideas I’ve wanted to get off the ground for awhile now.
For every Tim Ferris that has succeeded in lifestyle design, I know there are a millions of others that have failed.
I know my talents. I know there’s passion to make it happen.
Let’s see where this goes…