7 Ways To Feel Instantly Confident
If you were to ask a bunch of random people on the street, the question, “How do I get women?” The number one answer you would get is “just be confident.” That advice is true; if you “just be confident” then you will be 1000% more successful with women.
The only problem is how do you just be confident? Well, that is where I come in. Today I’m going to share with you 7 ways that will help you feel instant confidence. When you implement the things I share with you, you will develop the type of confidence that will make women stop dead in their tracks when they see you.
7 Ways To Feel Instantly Confident
If you are scrawny, or are a couple pounds overweight then going to the gym will work wonders for your self-confidence. I’m a fairly thin guy, and when I started going to the gym on a consistent basis I experienced the benefits of working out. After each work out I felt stronger, and more powerful.
I felt like I could take on any challenge that was thrown my way. Whenever I walked down the street I would catch women checking me out. Start going to the gym; let go of any excuses you may have. If you don’t want to go to the gym then just do push ups at home.
2. Dress better-
I can’t think of a faster way to instantly feel more confident than to dress better. Have you ever had a job interview and were dressed professional? How did it make you feel? If you are anything like me, then you felt like you were the boss. You felt like you were already successful.
Here are some quick fashion tips:
• Wear fitted clothes
• Iron your clothes
• Learn how to match colors
• Get a nice watch
• Get some dark washed jeans
3. Negative chatter-
You are your own worst enemy. All of that negative self-talk that goes on inside your head isn’t helping you. The only thing it’s doing is creating anxiety, doubt, and killing your confidence. The key to controlling the negative chatter in your mind is awareness. Anytime you find yourself thinking something negative like “Beautiful women won’t ever find me attractive”, rephrase the sentence into I am the kind of man beautiful women want. It might be hard for you to believe at first but as you keep doing it you will soon start to believe it.
Have you noticed the kind of posture you have when you aren’t feeling confident? Usually your head is low, you’re slouching, and you take shallow breaths. The easiest way to have confident body language is to keep your shoulders back; head high, and feet shoulder width apart. When you change you roll your shoulders back, and keep your head held high, there is no way you won’t feel confident. A bonus tip is to take deep breaths. Deep breaths work because they help keep your body relaxed.
5. Face your fear-
Over the past few years I have developed consistent confidence because of all my fears that I have faced. I could remember how nervous I would get when I wanted to approach a hot woman. My heart would start racing, my palms would get sweaty, and my body would start shaking. I literally felt like running away. One day I just decided to go for it, I started a conversation with a hot woman on the street. The conversation was plain, but I took action even though I felt fear and that made me feel confident.
6. Be prepared-
Back when I was in college, I was taking a leadership course. Every week during that course we had an exam, and every week, I studied hard for each exam up until the final. I didn’t study for the final because I thought I knew all the material. Boy was that a huge mistake. I got a C on that final exam. The moral of this story is to be prepared. Whenever I studied for my exams I would feel confident that I was going to pass them, but that day before the final exam I felt nervous and unsure. So when you call a woman, be prepared, know what you are going to call her for, when you go out on a date, be prepared, plan out exactly how the date is going to go.
7. Speak up-
Speaking in a low and timid voice, is only going to make you feel shy. When you’re feeling shy you won’t be feeling confident. So speak up. Speak from the bottom of your stomach. At my old job, I never spoke up which is why I felt shy and unconfident. When I started taking the initiative to speak up, I felt powerful. I felt like what I had to say mattered.
If you’re tired of feeling unconfident and would like to attract women, you can start by using some of the tips I just gave you above. Remember success with women happens in real life not in your head. So don’t imagine yourself using these tips, actually go out and use them in real life.
Guest Post by Luis Reyes of howtobethemanwomenwant.com. Luis is a dating coach helping men discover their masculinity and get a girlfriend.